UndersTANDIng 

undersTANDIng others; choosing understanding over offense

In grief, it’s easy to feel isolated, and the reactions of others can often leave us confused or hurt. However, understanding that others are also navigating their own struggles and offering grace can help us respond with compassion rather than defensiveness. Research shows that when we choose not to take offense, we free ourselves from unnecessary emotional pain and allow space for healing. As Dr. Brené Brown explains, we all have "rocks to carry," and everyone’s responses—whether kind or seemingly hurtful—are often reflections of their own internal battles. Instead of being offended by others’ actions, we can approach their behavior with curiosity, trying to understand their intent rather than their words or actions. This mindset fosters deeper empathy and connection. Letting go of misunderstandings and focusing on how we respond, rather than trying to control others, helps us find peace and navigate grief with more grace and understanding. knowing that during our times of grief people want to help and console us which will sometimes be followed by things said or done that could be interpreted badly. Instead translate it through the Lense of love and look at the intent of the person wanting to reach out and love you and help you.